Frequently Asked Questions
What is counselling?
Counselling is a form of psychological therapy where you talk to a professional about your feelings, emotions, thinking patterns, behaviour and present or past life events. You will talk about what is troubling you and your counsellor will do the best to help you identify the best way forward.
What is not counselling?
Giving advice, personal views or persuading someone to stop or take action is not counselling. Also, counselling is not meeting someone friendly to discuss weekly events as you would with a family member or a friend.
What can I expect from my first session?
The first session will be an opportunity for you to tell me about the issues that brought you to counselling and for me to have more information about your history. It is also an opportunity for both of us to decide if we will continue to work together.
How long will each session last?
Each session lasts 50 minutes.
How long do I need therapy for?
We usually discuss this on our first session and the length of therapy depends on you particular needs and the issues that you are presenting. Some people find that a few sessions is what they needed. Others choose short- term therapy which usually involves 6 sessions. Yet others choose to go on for a further weeks or months.
What happens if I am not sure about continuing therapy?
You can discontinue therapy at any time. You may want to take a break or seek counselling elsewhere.
What is the difference between talking to a counsellor and talking to a friend?
A counselling relationship is very unique and therefore different from your relationship with a friend. When you are talking to a friend you may feel that you have to take turns to talk about problems or may find that your friend is dealing with their own issues and may not be a good time to talk. At times a friend may give you advice and solutions when all you wanted was someone to listen. With your therapist you have an appointed time to talk about you without worrying if it is your turn. A therapist is trained to listen, value and explore your feelings so that you will find for yourself your own course of action.
How do I choose a therapist?
Choosing the right therapist for you is important. You need to find someone that you feel comfortable to talk to. If you do not feel comfortable you do not need to proceed with therapy. Make sure that the person that you contact is fully qualified and that they are associated with a professional body such as BACP or UKCP for example.
Is therapy expensive?
Therapy may seem expensive at first but unfortunately problems can cost much more in other ways. They can cost our relationships, our emotional, physical and spiritual wellbeing. Therapy can provide you with immeasurable rewards in well being, greater energy, joy and self worth which is more than adequate compensation for personal expense. See my prices here.
Some Myths About Counselling
Counselling is for mad people
Wanting to resolve your problems is a sign of wisdom not madness. Therapy can support you and assist you with issues that are common for many people.
Counselling is for weak people
Reaching out to solve your problems takes courage and strength qualities that are not associated with someone weak.
I should be able to solve my own problems
You are capable of dealing with many of your problems. However, when an issue arises and causes you to doubt yourself, seems unsolvable or affects your daily routine therapy is a good resource. Therapy can help you to find useful ways to handle your problem.